When we are working on self-love, learning ways to deal with anxiety and stress, and putting healthy habits in place to help avoid the pull of depression, it can get to a point where you feel pretty great and perhaps even untouchable. It is at that point that we might let go and relax. I am all for letting go, but this can also make us vulnerable. We can be blind-sided by a nasty surprise when we are least expecting it, sending us into a tailspin of stress, tension and fear. Lately, I have found it useful to keep some positive quotes on hand to help keep me grounded in these unexpected situations. To give me a sense of perspective when my world is suddenly crumbling around me. Here are my top ten inspirational quotes and the sort of negative thought processes that they have helped me to conquer:
“When someone is nasty or treats you poorly, don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them.”
I value kindness. I try to be kind to myself and kind to others as much as possible. However, I know that when I am having a bad day or if I am hungry or tired, That doesn’t make me a bad person and it helps me to remember that other people are dealing with their own problems too. Sometimes it just comes out and others get caught in the cross-fire. It’s not personal.
“We can’t just choose to be happy, but we can choose to be kind to ourselves when we are sad. Pain passes more quickly when we don’t berate ourselves for feeling it.”
In the midst of a depressive episode, it can feel impossible to think of yourself kindly. It might help to remember that you are not lazy or selfish, you are ill and if you take some time out to look after yourself and do things that make you feel better it will give you a better chance at recovery. What would you like someone to say to you? Imagine you are talking to your best friend. What would you say to them?
“Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways.”
Glennon Doyle Melton
All of those times that I didn’t go somewhere because I wasn’t happy with how I looked, or what I was wearing, afraid of what others would think of me, I was doing myself and my friends a disservice. Friends don’t need to see the perfect you, just the real you!
“Bloom where you are planted.”
My position in life was not a choice for the most part, it just happened to me. I have spent years fighting with myself, feeling out of control. This quote helps me to see that accepting your circumstances and rolling with it can become something beautiful. Work with what you have got and appreciate what you have.
“Don’t let people pull you into their storm. Pull them into your peace.”
This is a work in progress for me as I am affected by other people’s emotional states, but I am learning that by taking a moment to understand the reasons behind others’ behaviour and choose how to respond. If nothing else, I know that in responding with kindness that I am not making things worse for others.
“The grass is not always greener on the other side. It is greenest where you water it.”
This quote really helps me to focus on what I have and to look after it. Clean the house, care for my family and look after myself. If you look after the things and people around you it really does help you to appreciate what you have, rather than always lusting for more.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
Fear of failure can be a huge obstacle to going for what we really want. For me, I have struggled with this a great deal. I have an urge to be perfect but a fear of failure, neither of which do me any good at all. Instead, I am aiming for ‘good enough’ and accepting that failure is not a bad thing. We can’t all be good at everything and we won’t ever know if we don’t try! This quote really helps remind me of that.
“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
I totally agree with this quote by Roald Dahl, my favourite author from childhood. There are some people who you just feel good around. Their appearance may not be conventionally beautiful, but they are just lovely anyway. When I don’t feel like I am looking my best, I remember this. I am only human, I am doing my best, and I have good intentions. People will look past my perceived flaws if I just be my authentic self and don’t pretend to be something that I’m not.
“Where there is no vision the people perish.”
I may not be religious, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t find value in a lot of the messages that religious teaching provides. This proverb was brought to my attention at a vision board workshop, run by the life-coach that has been helping me recently. Coming from a place of confusion, lack of direction and hopelessness, I have been setting goals and feel like I finally have a purpose in life. I have a vision of who I want to be and am making it happen, step by step, and it’s helping me find inner peace.
“Do not look for approval, except for the consciousness of doing your best.”
The critical people around us might not be able to stop themselves pointing out all of the things that we haven’t done, but that doesn’t mean we have to agree. This quote but this reminds me to ask myself what I have done, rather than what I haven’t. I have to remember that I am not superhuman and sometimes things slip. I have often achieved a lot more that it seems though, and if I am happy with what I have done that is all that matters.
So, these are my top ten inspirational quotes at the moment. Perhaps they will change with the ebb and flow of the tide of life. I know that six months ago, this would have looked really different, so seeking out soothing words regularly is beneficial as there may be something new that you relate to. I think it is so important to talk to yourself in a kind voice. Learning to not accept the critical inner voice and challenging it with some of these positive messages can really help over time. Try www.tinybuddha.com for inspiration and take time to write down anything that inspires you.